The Sneeze

I have been taking part in a free class sponsored by a local microscope society in how to properly use microscopes.  It’s utterly fascinating to observe the micro world.  A wonderful way for children and adults alike to put a little awe back into their life.

In last week’s lesson we were observing and discussing a variety of scientific topics – such as the process of crossing various species of plants in order to create entirely new ones.  In other words, “playing God.”  All based upon sound, rational, observable evidence that has been tried and tested over and over again for hundreds of years by people around the world.

One would naturally assume that people interested in such topics would be progressive thinkers of the modern age, fully cognizant of and open to ideas new and old that challenge traditional assumptions about the world around us.  Myth-busters if you will, dedicated to replacing supposition and fantasy with truth grounded in rationalism.

Therefore, I found it particularly ironic when the director sneezed that every single person in the world said “bless you.”


Making It Last

Pretty much ever since the invention of plastic we have been virtually obsessed with making nominal objects which are devoid of sentimentality and easily disposable –  yet they never disintegrate.  Centuries from now, assuming people are still around, (and that is a very big assumption) it is likely they will on occasion dig up bits of our plastic concoctions.  No names attributed to their construction, nothing unique about their function, and very little aesthetic appeal.

I know we will never go back to the days of producing all things by hand because it is simply inefficient to do so.  Yet I must admit there is a part of me that at times yearns for the inspiration and ability to produce something absolutely unique that is a reflection of my own individuality, that is not capable of being copied by just anyone.  It doesn’t even necessarily have to be an object.  We still talk about the thoughts of the Greek philosophers for instance and we still utilize methods that were forged in antiquity to construct things in our world today.

It’s not even necessarily about something, like plastic, that has to last the test of time.  After all, dreams are momentary slices of bliss that are dissolved upon waking.  Yet for the one who experienced it, if they are fortunate enough to remember the journey, they have a treasure that is uniquely theirs.

I see little point to being placed amongst the living and being named as an individual, if in the greater scheme of all humanity your life’s output (either shared with others or not) is equivalent in substance to plastic bags catching wind at the dump.



Dear Santa

Dear Santa,

What I want for Christmas…

  1. For humor and humiliation to stop holding hands.
  2. The clocks in my home to turn back two centuries and stay there so I can wear a coat instead of a bikini on Christmas day in the North Pole ad infinitum.
  3. For social media to be obliterated by hackers so I am never again subjected to cat videos, pictures of what people I don’t even know ate for dinner, or anonymous stalkers claiming to love me beyond reason.
  4. For strangers on my television and in person to cease and desist from explaining to me in unsolicited, profuse detail their sexual preferences and practices.
  5. To never appear in a viral video.
  6. For the basis of all things manufactured by hand or machine to require a stamp of humanity – it must have life sustaining purpose, a message to transcend rather than defeat, or a beauty that is directly translatable to the soul – even by google.
  7. To find my sense of humor. I misplaced it in the election.
  8. A ten step program for narcissists which must begin with the admission, “I am not alone.”
  9. A unicorn, so I can start believing in as many as six impossible things before breakfast again.
  10. For all electronic devices to be turned off until we have reached the altitude of inner and outer peace and understanding with our universe at which time one may decide whether or not swiping right is even worth the effort again.

I’m an atheist, but nonetheless I can most certainly be bribed with presents and sugar.  So in the spirit of all that is sweet and giving I wish you a very Merry (fill in the blank) and happiness for all!


I was watching a couple of kids in the park on their phones “liking” away for hours on ends.  I got to wondering – what if there was a news feed in which the authors of any given post were invisible.  Would it influence your “like”?  What if that news feed included your own posts, both present and very distant past.  Would you recognize them?  Would you “like” them?  I suppose it is a sure fire way to live outside of yourself momentarily and judge for yourself whether or not you’re a “likable” person rather than relying on everyone else for affirmation as to whether or not you need to up your game.

Also, I find it ironic how people have thousands of friends, most of whom they do not know, and while they want those people to “like” their posts, they often seem to cringe when anyone comments on them, or if one of these strangers dares to post something on their wall.  It seems to be a case of – adore me unconditionally, but don’t talk to me – it’s creepy.  And I’m not even touching on the other aspect of this which is daring to disagree with someone.  That is a whole other essay.  😉

Of course you can always block the outsiders.  Nestle comfortably amidst the nest of deaf, mute, yet reliably predictable “likable” flock.  It works for most people.  Coloring within predetermined lines with a single hue (defined as you wish – by interests, age, religion, origin etc.) and you’ll likely be elected to office in most parts of the world these days – uncontested by the outsiders who have either given up trying to engage or have been blocked from doing so by whatever means available.

Me Too – Now What?

Recent news feeds simply highlight what women across this country and many others have known for as long as I can remember – harassment in the workplace is the norm, not the exception.  I can only speak from my own experience – it always ran downstream, I never saw it run up.  CEOs, VPs and other upper management were the ones you didn’t want to be with in the elevator alone.

I was one of the rare ones that reported it.  The first time I was laughed at.  Didn’t I think the attention was “just in fun?”  The second time my name soared to the top of the list of those who needed to be laid off the next time the company was due to cut people to satisfy shareholder greed.  Sure enough, despite over ten years of service to the company I was told my job was being dissolved – there just wasn’t enough work available to justify it.  (I later found out another girl was put in my very same position just days after I was let go.)  Six years later I am still unemployed, surviving on my savings.  I have no reference because needless to say I want zero contact with my former boss.  I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he ended my career.  Co-workers, in fear of losing their jobs too, also vanished.

As they say it is a “power thing.”  I saw so many people promoted throughout the corporate world (almost 100% of the time white males) not due to talent or tenacity but due to who they knew or how “likeable” they were (i.e. they “fit” in the puzzle and didn’t cause trouble). They rarely did much “work” of any kind.  They showed up when they felt like it, often left early and spent most of the day socializing.  I often wondered if their penchant towards harassment was an offshoot of them being drunk on their own dumb luck.  They knew they weren’t worth the salaries they commanded.  They knew they could never spend that much money in a lifetime.  But they were prized above others anyway – so there must be something extraordinary about them that even they themselves are oblivious to, right?  I think on the surface they truly believe that.  Yet deep in their subconscious, they know the emperor has no clothes.  It’s that darker reality that I believe leads them to victimize all in their path.  It’s a bunker mentality.  “I’ll over compensate in my every action to make others fear me, thereby creating the smoke and mirrors necessary to conceal the real truth – I’m inadequate on many levels.”  Most never realize what they are doing is wrong.  The few that do, rather than correct their actions, double down with ferocity doing everything they can to conceal what they’ve done.

So what now?  Some will be held to account, most will not.  CEOs don’t fire themselves for bad behavior.  Most VPs and other managers are simply transferred to another department.

Most who have suffered will never come forward.  They have children to feed.  Most co-workers will sympathize with you, but never publicly defend you.  They have families to feed too.

As in my experience, there are never any witnesses.  These guys are never “first timers”, they know how to get away with it.  As for fighting back through the courts, as the CEO of my company once said about the issue, “I’ll just outspend them on lawyers.”  Most women don’t have the money for lawyers.  They know that.

Campaigns for public awareness are great, but I fear trying to appeal to someone’s conscience is an improbability when that conscience is turned off to begin with.

Where are the explorers?

My hobby is embroidery, or when I’m feeling keen to impress people – I refer to myself as a needle artist.  Of course I’ve never sold a thing.  It’s like writing books – your parents, your grandmother and your boyfriend buy them so Thanksgiving isn’t awkward but other than that the down payment for the yacht is perpetually lost in the mail.

Nevertheless, I do on rare occasions get notes from visitors.  What is odd is that both messages I have received over the past year were from people telling me that they love embroidery but they’d never be able to do it.  They don’t try and fail, they just assume defeat and never initiate even a nominal effort.  Then, instead of simply forgetting about it and moving on, or shelving their failure in the shame bucket to be revisited the next time they’re at the therapist – they publicly claim to a complete stranger that they failed at something that they never attempted.

It’s odd to me.  It made me think of past centuries when scientists experimented with all sorts of chemicals whose properties they were totally oblivious to upon threat of disease or death in the name of discovery.  Or of explorers setting out from their countries of origin to the ends of the earth – which they thought they would fall off of at some point as they neared its edge – just to see what was there.

The purest form of an exploration instinct is often referred to as “childlike curiosity.”  It goes away for most of us as we fall into the monotonous trap of a “settled life.”  Yet for some, as those previously mentioned, it can blossom into a magnificent drive that has led to some of the greatest advances in our civilization over time.

Yet sometimes I wonder if the lack of that explorer instinct that seems endemic these days, aside from a few whose existence seems in peril of extinction in the not so distant future, is because the curiosity attributed to children is itself an increasingly disappearing virtue.  For example, on a recent trip to a local park every parent I saw was on a cell phone, the teenagers were walking around glued to electronic devices and even the toddler in the stroller was mesmerized by a two- dimensional mind numbing game from which they would elicit no inspiration whatsoever.  Yet the minute it was taken out of their hands a howl that could have been heard on Mars was unleashed from the bowls of dependence further shining a light on a curiosity instinct clearly on life support.

Being Loud

There is a plethora of slogans, rants and the like these days condemning any and all forms of silence and demanding everyone scream – the louder the better.  It’s a shriek that falls on deaf ears amongst introverts.  It’s not that we couldn’t care less about injustice in the world.  In part it’s a matter of there being so much to choose from, where does one begin?

Then there is the matter of publicly gathering with a bunch of people with a multitude of placards.  Does one simply stand with the majority in a public display of unity?  Or is it even more appropriate to become vocal – either chanting slogans or becoming outright hysterical as many seem to these days.  All across social media and the like it seems we follow the loudest, not necessarily the smartest.

From my own personal perspective, all the marches and ranting in the world is quite unlikely to stem the flow of injustice anywhere.  Throughout history it has never come down to who had the more logical argument – it has always been a matter of numbers.  If there are more huddled on one side than another and that side has the ability to decrease the numbers on the opposing side – either through destruction or coercion (more likely the former than the latter) then no matter how well thought out and presented your argument, your efforts will be in vain.

I know everyone wants to either be lauded as a standout hero, or simply part of the pack on the right side of history.  No one ever thinks they are on the wrong side, it’s a matter of personal perspective.  Standing by and watching the spectacle on all sides is simply being part of the human experience.  It isn’t indifference, it’s just embracing the reality that in the larger scheme of things a singular person, even if united with a significant number of other like-minded people, are just like tides – the bigger waves will wash upon the shore over and above the smaller ones, but in time both will recede all the same.  Time is the loudest, yet most silent voice among us and will always indiscriminately triumph over all.


In times of turmoil people look for either anchors to stabilize them or prophets to inspire them.  Interestingly enough, they almost always turn to one of their own – another human.  With all the mayhem on the news these days I happened to glance out my window.  There is a tiny crack in the cement outside my home in which plant has been residing for so many years now I have lost count.

No one encased it there, sealing its fate.  (After all once planted a plant has no choice but to endure its life in the same spot come what may.)  Why on earth would it have chosen this small, crowded crevice in a sea of concrete.  No neighbors, no obvious food source – hardly an idyllic Eden.    And yet there it is unto this day.  It has endured countless rain storms, scorching sun, the occasional absent minded human crushing its arms with their feet and a plethora of passing ants and others who doubtless on occasion have taken a bite.  Even if I were to pluck it and place it in a vase on my table after such a barbarous act of forced displacement, even then – provided it was given nourishment, it would bloom for me without hesitation.

Although it never says anything, the fact that it awakens every single day without fail- unfurling its leaves in the unquestioned quest to survive, whatever a new day may bring, attests to the essence of “being” in its purest form.

Men, men and more men

I’ll preface this thought with a disclaimer – I’ve never thought of myself as a modern, rip off my bra kind of feminist.  I’m a traditionalist who would be quite content to marry, stay at home with the kids and cook the nightly meal – although I draw the line at doing the dishes…well one must take a stand somewhere.

Nevertheless something occurred to me in a class of 6-8 year olds that I was supervising for a month long summer camp.  The two boys in the class were so difficult.  They constantly picked fights with the girls and were disrespectful to me.  There was this perplexing need to repetitively assert dominance without reason or reward.  Where did it come from?

When I came home and was watching TV that night I realized a few things. For the most part music videos are full of strutting men being fawned over by scantily clothed women or by men who are feeling sad because of “some woman.”  Flip the channel.  The nightly news – some CEO is in hot water for sexual harassment.  Names aside – it is assumed to be a man because 99% of business leaders are men.  The woman will have her 15 minutes – TV interviews, lawyers fighting for a good settlement.  Then likely you’ll never hear of her again because no one wants to hire a trouble maker, even if she was indeed the innocent victim.

Flip the channel.  A preacher, again a man, is going to save my soul.  Religion is probably one of the most male dominated aspects of our society.  I clearly remember being in an orthodox synagogue.  The men were allowed to sing their hearts out in rapture praising god while the women were expected to stay silent on the segregated opposite side of the room.  I remember thinking, “is my voice not equal in value before god?”  In a church, I also remember all the women bowing and kissing the hand of a priest – who of course is a man.

Even the biblical canon which guides the vast majority of the “faithful” itself is full of things that give one pause.  Of course we all know about mischievous Eve.  Adam was too sensible to do such a silly thing.  Eve, being the lesser, was the cause for all calamity. Even poor Mary, she couldn’t fashion a miracle within her without a little help from a man.  (But of course she remained a virgin.)  One typically assumes god is a man or man-like.  I’ve never once in my life heard someone refer to god as “she” except in ultra feminist circles.

Flip the channel.  Police dramas, hospital dramas.  Full of butchered women (for the most part) and colleagues falling for each other.   The man almost exclusively being the wooer and the woman the willing, or in many cases unwilling yet won over, object.

Flip the channel.  The nightly news.  Almost exclusively the lead anchors are men, there to tell us what is what.  Do they think you just wouldn’t put as much trust in the words of a woman?  Would she not have the same commanding sense of justice, truth and authority to convey the state of the world?

As a woman I think sometimes I feel I am drowning in a sea of men.  It seems the days of worshipping women goddesses and pagan statues extolling the virtues of the feminine form are well behind us.   Yet we’re in the modern age and all has advanced exponentially…right?

More Questions Than Answers

From time to time you see articles exclaiming the erosion of traditional religion in the modern age.  The reasons given for It never seem to have much thought behind them.  It’s usually something along the lines of “people just aren’t into it anymore”, but they never really say why.

When you think back to the times when religion was a central, and in many cases all encompassing, aspect of people’s lives there is an element that many of these regions and eras in time have in common – singular authority.  Lands were often ruled by monarchs.  On a more local level, typically the most powerful person in town was the priest or other religious leader – often one of the only literate people around.  People were used to looking to a leader for all the answers.  They had the questions, which they could ask with varying degrees of freedom depending on the time and place, but most had little choice but to rely on central authority figures for what more often than not amounted to pre-scripted answers.

In the modern era with the proliferation of access to information, we have an unprecedented means to both obtain and interpret questions on an unprecedented level.  We no longer have to look to a singular figure to provide us with the answers – neither priests, nor kings, or even God himself.  The questions have not changed, but the answers are so wide ranging that the possibilities of interpretation have increased exponentially.  And yet, even with this explosion of individual initiative, unencumbered by traditional societal restraints and deference to centralized authority figures – both real and imagined, we are still as puzzled as ever as to why we are here and what happens when we expire.